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THE WAY HUMANS SHOULD TREAT HUMANS

When rough seas forced the cancellation of the last ferries out of Port Townsend on a busy holiday weekend, a group of stranded passengers faced the prospect of sleeping on the streets. However, their dire situation was resolved thanks to the kindness of a ferry terminal worker William Patterson .As the wind picked up on Saturday evening, the Washington State Ferries had to cancel the final sailings from Port Townsend to Coupeville due to the rough conditions It was in the early evening that 79-year-old Kip Goodwin and his wife from Hawaii had finished calling every hotel and Airbnb in the Olympic Peninsula’s Port Townsend—they were all fully booked for the summer holiday season. Neither had they luck at the YMCA or Red Cross—even the campgrounds were unavailable. Fearfully looking at each other amid the sound of howling wind, Patterson interrupted their worrying to tell them they would all be staying with him and his wife Arianna. Nestled among the pines on the Admiralty Inlet, Port Townsend is serviced by the United States’ largest ferry network, but the Port Townsend-to-Coupeville route, which Goodwin and the others were hoping to take after a day trip to Port Townsend and Whidbey Island, was canceled after winds picked up and the ferries had to remain tied to their moorings. All three round trips were canceled, starting at 6:45 pm and on to 9:00 pm. Arianna Patterson joked with the Seattle Times that her husband always threatened he’d bring a “straggler” home one day. William called and asked if they could make space for the Goodwins. “I said, ‘We have enough space for two, no big deal,’” Arianna said. “Then he called back and said, ‘We have eight or nine other people.’ I said, oh.” Like the Goodwins, most of the passengers were over 60 years of age, so the Pattersons were just happy they could get the visitors out of the weather. At the home, there was space on the couch and an extra bed, but pretty quickly people were on the floor, borrowing blankets that their hosts had from their time welcoming foster kids. Early the next morning, William went out to the cafe he runs along with his work at the ferry terminal to make pastries and coffee for them all. “It was unbelievable,” said Fred Dente, 79, who lives in Langley and was visiting with his wife and their two friends from Hawaii. “It was the way humans should treat humans. In this day and age, it was exceptional.” That morning was bright and brisk, and at 7:00 AM, the ferries departed. I need not over emphasize the way they felt as the entire atmosphere carried the waves of immense happiness and gratitude.

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RESEARCH SUPPORTS THE THERAPEUTIC EFFECTS OF KINDNESS

Humans are hardwired to feel good when performing acts of kindness towards others, an imperative trait in any animal that evolves to live and hunt in social groups. This is such a truism that performing random acts of kindness for other people was more effective in reducing symptoms of depression than specifically planning activities for the sake of enjoyment, a new study found. The study sought to test methods of cognitive behavioral therapy, a non-pharmaceutical treatment for depression and anxiety that’s proven to work through confronting patterns of thought and behavior that lead to depressive or anxious thoughts, and consciously moving away from them by retraining one’s brain. The methods included random acts of kindness, such as buying a stranger’s coffee at Starbucks or baking cookies for the mailman, as well as planning fun activities twice a week and “cognitive reappraisal,” which guides people with depression or anxiety to record triggering thoughts, and actively contemplate what would make the resulting stress diminish. Participants in the study recorded their feelings before, during, and five weeks after it ended. They noted feelings like social isolation, self-consciousness in public, and overall life satisfaction. Coauthor Jennifer Cheavens from Ohio State University mentioned, “We thought the group that kept track of their thoughts might do better since that’s a well-known way to help with depression and anxiety. However, the kindness group performed just as well, if not better, and they also felt more socially connected than the other two groups.”All three groups showed improvements in their feelings. The random acts of kindness group had a strong positive effect early on, but this decreased over time. In contrast, the thought-recording group started off with negative feelings, but their outlook improved as the study went on. Another surprising finding was how easy it was for the kindness group to perform their acts of kindness. Cheavens noted, “I was surprised that it wasn’t difficult for them. The kindness group was more engaged than the other groups in some ways.” The kindness acts is a particularly important finding because it necessitates a connection with other people. Social isolation is a high-risk factor for survival; the same as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.  Cheavens felt that as well as being a powerful therapeutic strategy, random acts of kindness can be “add-on therapy” to pretty much most mental health disorders, reasoning that anytime we can get out of our own heads, it seems to be of benefit to our well-being. Be inspired by this finding and Try A Little Kindness

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A SINGLE ACT OF KINDNESS SPARKS HOPE, EVEN AMIDST A SEA OF DESPAIR.

In 2014, a young woman named Trieste Belmont was struggling with depression. Her grandmother had just passed, and she was going through a dramatic break-up. She was teaching a dance class at this time, but without a driver’s license, she relied on a friend to drive her to and from work every week. One day however the friend didn’t come to pick her up, and Belmont waited for hours before being forced to walk home. The route she used went over a high bridge. And when she got there, she stopped for a moment. “I was just having one of the worst days of my life. And I was looking down at all the cars, just feeling so useless and like such a burden to everyone in my life that I decided that this was the time and I needed to end my life,” Belmont said. “I was sobbing and crying and working up the courage to just go through with it, because I knew at that moment that it was going to make everyone’s lives better.” At that moment, a driver, whose face Belmont didn’t see, and whose hand she would never shake, passed over the bridge and hollered out of the window. “Don’t jump,” they said. It immediately clicked a ray of luminous hope on in her head; that if a stranger could care enough to speak up, then suicide was not the answer. She enrolled in therapy, and with the help of her friends, family, and therapist, she is far down the road indeed from that dark and fateful day. Belmont uses the incident as an example to teach others to be kind to people, as it’s never obvious what they’re going through. The smallest kindness is multiplied by the distance, socially, between two strangers.

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Spreading Kindness: South Carolina Officers Deliver Turkeys Instead of Tickets

If the heart is determined to be graciously kind, then every life situation presents one with an opportunity to spread such love and kindness. It’s all about what thoughts we’re preoccupied with. Motorists in South Carolina who were pulled over for violations got a Thanksgiving surprise, as officers handed them a free turkey instead of tickets or fines. Every turkey day for the past five years the Summerville Police Department has spread seasonal cheer with the program. Drivers are pulled over and burst into laughter and relief when they are handed a turkey instead. The department turns the annual, week-long event called ‘Turkey, no Ticket’, into a teaching experience for drivers. They stop motorists who might normally have been issued written warnings or tickets for infractions like driving with an obstructed mirror, or minor speeding. This year, Motorcycle Officers Bryan Young and T.J. Thomas gave out 12 turkeys donated by a local Harris Teeter supermarket. Police Chief Douglas Wright said that the project is also intended to foster goodwill between police and the community. “We feel that it is essential to utilize every unique idea to help break down the walls between the community and law enforcement. “The holidays can be challenging for many reasons, so giving back to the community is another way to brighten the season for those who are struggling.” He also said that his officers are always excited to take part in the project. “Each year, the officers who are selected to participate absolutely love doing this particular outreach. Life can be truly challenging, hence nothing is more beautiful than the exploration of every avenue to lift burdens off people’s shoulders and show them genuine kindness. It will make more sense and meaning if our corrective measures too are doused in kindness, love and compassion. Kindness is all humanity needs at the moment.

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Kindness Without Limits: A Journey of Friendship and Sacrifice

In all honesty, the flame of liberty will forever burn because humans have chosen to be kind without limits. Krystal was 6 years old when Dave Polen began transporting her over 170 miles from her home in Somerville, Indiana, to a hospital. She was born with Amniotic Band Syndrome and was directed to Shriners Children’s in St. Louis for treatment on her leg and possible amputation. Dave started volunteering as driver 30 years earlier, transporting patients so they might improve their quality of life. Getting back and forth to St. Louis would have been difficult for Krystal’s family as her father worked long hours. So, they accepted an offer for hospital transportation from the local Shriners charity group. Over the course of 10 trips, the conversations were plentiful on their 3 hour back-and-forth trips to the hospital. Dave was a ‘Driver Dad’ but soon became more. He became a friend—and their unexpected friendship has lasted for over three decades. In fact, decades after meeting the “sweet little girl” with a prosthetic leg, Dave was a guest at Krystal’s wedding. As the years rolled on, Dave became sick. Eventually, his doctors gave a diagnosis of end-stage renal failure. They said Dave would need dialysis for the rest of his life or a kidney transplant. Dave also got the warning that an available kidney might take five years to obtain. Dave reached out to Krystal to talk through the process because her husband had just received a liver transplant that saved his life. Krystal immediately saw an opportunity to return the favor. She found out they shared the same blood type and, without hesitation, offered to donate her kidney. She said, at the time, “The kidney belongs to him, whenever he decides to take it.” Dave was shocked – and hesitant—as he knew Krystal was a mother to three kids with a full-time job. “She wouldn’t take no for an answer,” he recalled. In May, 2023, after a year on dialysis, Dave took her up on her offer. “Pack your bags, Dave. You’re going to get a slightly used but new kidney,” laughed Krystal. “Since I was little, I’ve always questioned why Dave was so good to us because he was so kind and so willing to help out with anything. I’ve always questioned why. “What I’ve come to understand is: If I was born with one leg so I could give my kidney to Dave, then so be it,” said Krystal. “This is a gift I can’t ever repay,” said Dave. “I am so thankful! Now, I feel like I can do anything.” Kindness Without Limits: A Journey of Friendship and Sacrifice In all honesty, the flame of liberty will forever burn because humans have chosen to be kind without limits. Krystal was 6 years old when Dave Polen began transporting her over 170 miles from her home in Somerville, Indiana, to a hospital. She was born with Amniotic Band Syndrome and was directed to Shriners Children’s in St. Louis for treatment on her leg and possible amputation. Dave started volunteering as driver 30 years earlier, transporting patients so they might improve their quality of life. Getting back and forth to St. Louis would have been difficult for Krystal’s family as her father worked long hours. So, they accepted an offer for hospital transportation from the local Shriners charity group. Over the course of 10 trips, the conversations were plentiful on their 3 hour back-and-forth trips to the hospital. Dave was a ‘Driver Dad’ but soon became more. He became a friend—and their unexpected friendship has lasted for over three decades. In fact, decades after meeting the “sweet little girl” with a prosthetic leg, Dave was a guest at Krystal’s wedding. As the years rolled on, Dave became sick. Eventually, his doctors gave a diagnosis of end-stage renal failure. They said Dave would need dialysis for the rest of his life or a kidney transplant. Dave also got the warning that an available kidney might take five years to obtain. Dave reached out to Krystal to talk through the process because her husband had just received a liver transplant that saved his life. Krystal immediately saw an opportunity to return the favor. She found out they shared the same blood type and, without hesitation, offered to donate her kidney. She said, at the time, “The kidney belongs to him, whenever he decides to take it.” Dave was shocked – and hesitant—as he knew Krystal was a mother to three kids with a full-time job. “She wouldn’t take no for an answer,” he recalled. In May, 2023, after a year on dialysis, Dave took her up on her offer. “Pack your bags, Dave. You’re going to get a slightly used but new kidney,” laughed Krystal. “Since I was little, I’ve always questioned why Dave was so good to us because he was so kind and so willing to help out with anything. I’ve always questioned why. “What I’ve come to understand is: If I was born with one leg so I could give my kidney to Dave, then so be it,” said Krystal. “This is a gift I can’t ever repay,” said Dave. “I am so thankful! Now, I feel like I can do anything.”

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CONNECTING THROUGH KINDNESS: THE TALE OF ESBON KAMAU AND ALEX TISDALE

An Alabama Uber driver, Esbon Kamau, is expected to have a remarkable 2024 after he returned $8,000 in cash that a teenager, Alex Tisdale, had accidentally left in his vehicle. Kamau, who has been driving for Uber intermittently for four years and is a father of five, formed a connection with Tisdale during the ride.  After Tisdale exited the vehicle to attend to his business, Kamau continued his work, picking up and dropping off other clients. Upon discovering an unfamiliar item in his car and realizing it was money, he instinctively recognized it belonged to Tisdale. Without hesitation, he reported the find through the Uber app. Meanwhile, Tisdale realized he had left his belongings in the vehicle and also reported it on the app. The system efficiently connected them again, allowing Kamau to return Tisdale’s intact belongings. Tisdale was deeply impressed by Kamau’s honesty and kindness, ensuring that he left a generous tip for the driver. Reacting on the matter, Kamau stated, “When you do something good, it comes back tenfold.” In our quest for daily sustenance, may we remember to be graciously kind, and treat others, same way we expect to be treated.

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IN THE HEART OF KINDNESS: A STORY FROM MAKURDI

We often overlook the kindness of those close to us while being captivated by distant acts of generosity. Ogoyi Peace found herself in a challenging situation while trying to send an order at Benue Links Park in Makurdi for delivery to another state. Communication with the driver was frustrating, as he demanded a fare that exceeded her budget. Despite her efforts to negotiate, the driver remained unyielding. Fortunately, a good Samaritan named Shije Blessing witnessed the exchange and decided to intervene. She spoke with the driver, persuading him to reconsider his stance and even insisted that he refund part of the fare already paid by Peace. Though this act of kindness may seem small, it had a powerful impact on Peace, who later shared her experience on Facebook. Many people responded, affirming Shije Blessing’s reputation for kindness and recalling instances where she had supported them in difficult times. Just like Shije Blessing, we should all strive to be ambassadors of kindness in our communities.

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IN THE NICK OF TIME: LIAM STYCH SAVES MOTHER AND BABY FROM DROWNING

It is evident that sometimes the Universe places people in strategic positions to allow them to share kindness and benevolence. Liam Stych leapt into action after hearing a woman scream, “Help me, help me, please save my baby!” A video captured the scene as the woman’s car was being dragged under a footbridge during severe flooding in Birmingham, England, following Storm Henk. Liam explained that while walking over the bridge, he heard the woman’s desperate cries. He noted that the front of her car was pointing down into the water, prompting him to dangle off the bridge, as he didn’t want to worsen the situation by adding his weight to the sinking vehicle. The 28-year-old recounted how he dangled off the bridge and smashed the rear passenger window of the car. He used ratchet straps to secure the Fiat to the bridge, preventing it from sinking further He instructed the woman to remain calm and to lower her window to hand him her child. Although she could only open the window halfway, he managed to grab the baby and “hurled her” into the arms of his pregnant partner, who was waiting on the bridge. After ensuring the baby was safe, Liam quickly ran to his work van to retrieve a set of 3.5-ton ratchet straps. He returned to the car, smashed the back passenger window, and secured the vehicle to the bridge to prevent it from drifting further. Liam then told the woman to climb into the back and exit through the window. She successfully managed to get out, and they held hands to jump into the water together after counting to three. He described the current as very strong but was able to drag her out of the water. West Midlands Police praised Liam as a hero, but the modest father of two insisted that he had simply acted on instinct. He reflected that if he hadn’t intervened, the car would have been dragged under the bridge, making it nearly impossible to rescue the occupants. It is truly unfortunate that the woman lost her car and shopping but if not for Liam’s swift and kind intervention, it could’ve been worse. May we never shy away from the responsibility of stretching out our hands in service to humanity every time there’s a need for such.

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CANADIAN TEENS RESCUE BRITISH COUPLE FROM DROWNING ON VACATION

Emma Bassermann, 14, and Zoe Meklensek-Ireland, 13, have both trained competitively for years. Zoe has a dream of making the Olympic trials with her father as her coach, and trains at the Dorval Swim Club in Quebec with the hopes of making that happen. It was 3 p.m. on the south shore of Barbados when Emma and Zoe finished boogie boarding. They were on the island as part of a training camp, but wouldn’t go in for practice until sometime later. Suddenly, they heard a shout. “I heard someone yelling for help in the distance. I was looking around for her and I spotted her and she was about 50 feet out from where I was,” Zoe stated â€œSo I went out to her and she told me that her husband was further out and he was struggling to swim and he needed assistance.” Belinda Stone, from England, had been caught in a riptide with her husband Robert. With Emma’s help, Zoe quickly got Belinda to shore, but Robert was way further out. Fortunately they had their boogie boards, and could save their energy as they went out for a 6-minute swim to reach Robert, who was trying to swim against the current. Many people may vacation on beaches their whole lives and never be taught what to do if caught in a riptide. Zoe and Emma, however, understood the situation well, and after loading the exhausted Robert Stone onto the board, Zoe strapped it to her ankle and the three started to swim—parallel to the shore—until they got out of the both the current and the diagonal wave pattern. It was a long, long swim, but the girls were strong. Together they made it back to the beach. It was more than just the visiting British, who celebrated the two teens’ spectacular swimming skills, but the Universe stands grateful for such heroic stunts pulled by the selfless and compassionate duo of Emma and Zoe whose father, Chuck Meklensek, was so proud and partly astonished at what his daughter accomplished. Like we’ve always maintained, none is too little to make a difference, no selfless act is too insignificant to swing the pendulum of kindness.

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CASHIER’S KINDNESS CALMS TODDLER’S MELTDOWN AT DOLLAR TREE

These bundles of joy could sometimes be bundles of sweet trouble too. It doesn’t matter how expert you are at calming your child, sometimes they are simply inconsolable; and parallel to that fact is another that as much an expert as you may be at calming your child, every so often you meet a person who is a master. That was the case for Mary-Ann Byrnes, 38, who was shopping at a Dollar Tree in Cedar Grove, New Jersey, when her two-year-old daughter, also named Mary-Ann, started to have a meltdown. Fortunately for the Mary-Anns, they were in the presence of such a master—the cashier, who was recorded picking up the youngster and instantly calming her down with an invitation to scan the items together. The cashier Fatimah Leftwich noticed that Mary-Ann was struggling and kindly asked the toddler if she wanted to help behind the counter. The little Mary-Ann immediately said yes. “She asked if it was cool for her to pick my daughter up and then helped her scan all of my items and even some of the people’s items behind me! “I saw a woman who had the ability to calm my daughter down with such a wonderful, trusting energy. It was amazing,” said her mother. As little as this gesture may look, its impact on the Mary-Anns is what tongue and pen can’t really tell. You may not be able to change the world on your own, but through acts of kindness, you can cast a stone into the water and create countless ripples. Just keep T.A.L.K.ing

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